Parental Discipline 

Biblical discipline focuses on the attitudes of the heart (Pr. 22:15.). It also focuses on training (Pr. 1:2-4) and the contrast between wisdom and foolishness (Pr. 1:5-7).

Obedience

We have a picture of obedience in Abraham when he was told to sacrifice his son. In Genesis 22:1-3 Abraham's response was immediate, without challenge, question or complaint, and it was complete.

Disobedience

In 1 Samuel 15 Saul displays his disobedient heart by partially responding to God's instructions and then excusing his incomplete obedience when confronted by Samuel. God judged Saul severely, giving us an example of how serious disobedience is. Jeremiah 17:9-10 warns us about the deceitful heart and God's search of the heart.

Rules and Responsibility

Any home has a set of rules whether or not they are stated. If the pattern of a home responsibility is a "free-for-all," everyone doing what is right in his or her own eyes, then that is the rule of the class even though it is not a good rule.

Certain rules, which should facilitate proper development and show respect for individuals, are needed. However, it is the heart that must be addressed. Dealing with the underlying issue is far more important than imposing a rule to curb outward behavior. Standing up on the inside while sitting down on the outside does not lead to lasting submission to a holy, righteous God.

Consistently reward proper behavior with genuine praise and gratefulness. Establish appropriate consequences for willful defiance. Talk with each other about your goals and expectations. Clearly communicate goals and expectations for everyone such as "When a parent is talking, children are to listen."